One day I walked into a local yoga studio after a friend gifted me a one month pass, and little did I know that my life would change forever. It was at this studio that I discovered my love of yoga and women’s circles. Plot twist!
Ah life… Don’t you love how it throws you unexpected gifts?
One of the most incredible opportunities for connection and growth to ever come into my life has been women’s circles, both attending and facilitating.
I remember when I first started attending circles. Each time we gathered, there was a feeling present within me that I could not ignore. This wasn’t just social time like getting a drink at a bar, a tea/coffee date at a cafe or watching movies on Netflix with your girlfriends… This was something deeper.
I felt strongly that this is part of who I am, and who we are as women.
Since leading many circles over the years, going from zero to full houses, I’ve learned so much along the way that can be applied to life in general. I’ve also had many women who run circles or want to run them ask my for advice and support.
So I want to share with you 3 big lessons that may just help and inspire you, whether you are a women’s circle facilitator, a yoga teacher, you run workshops or maybe you just need a daily dose of inspiration 🙂
Here we go…
1.KEEP DOING THE WORK: KNOW THYSELF
Did you ever see the film the Matrix? There is a part where Neo goes to see the Oracle and above the doorway is a sign: Temet Nosce. The Oracle asks Neo if he knows what it means, then tells him it’s Latin, meaning “Know Thyself”. Many Greek philosophers like Socrates and Plato also spoke about this, and so do countless other teachers and healing modalities.
Even before circles, I realised that a major part of life’s journey is about getting to know ourselves. Yoga and circles continue to reaffirm this for me. To know yourself is a magical path of healing, growth, expansion, challenge, frustration, fear, doubt, joy, love, experience and all the colours of the rainbow.
In my experience, this is one of the most important ongoing practices as a women’s circle facilitator, and this also applies to any kind of healing, mentoring, teaching and coaching work. It all starts here.
When supporting others, I’ve learned that I must keep doing the work on myself to expand my capacity to serve the community with this powerful and important healing work. I’ve learned it is important to know my values, strengths, weaknesses and boundaries, and be able to recognise triggers that are present around people or situations, in order to hold space and lead with awareness, openness and love.
The more you know yourself, the more connected you are to your truth, to your highest purpose and the more you can connect with others. The more you know yourself, the deeper your capacity to be of service as the best facilitator you can be.
There are many ways to keep doing the work through all sorts of healing modalities, coaching, mentors, plant healing, meditation, yoga, attending other women’s circles and more.
Know thyself… you never know what hidden gifts you may find! 🙂
2. KEEP SHOWING UP
As the wonderful Brene Brown says, “Sometimes the bravest and most important thing you can do is just show up.”
From day 1 of leading circles, I made the commitment to myself that I would show up to circle, even if no one else did. This commitment was definitely tested several times in the early days when sometimes just 1 or 2 women showed up, and one time no one showed up except me.
It doesn’t feel good, believe me. But what I learned is that it is so important to show up for yourself. Things don’t happen overnight and baby steps become big things! The intention is more powerful than you realise!
Plus, each circle (just like each day in life) is different to the next. Sometimes there’s lots of action happening and sometimes there’s not. Sometimes you’re on fire and in the flow, and sometimes you’re falling flat on your face and want to hide under the covers.
Now having said all of this, there will be days where showing up is the last thing you want to do if it means it’s at the expense of your energy and your health… and know that this is more than ok! This steps into the area of self-care, boundaries and intention, and this is another story for another time!
3. MAKE AN EFFORT TO CONNECT AND NURTURE
Connection is one of the most beautiful parts about life!
One of my biggest intentions when leading circles is to nurture the women who attend, to form connections, to show them they are supported and that I genuinely care about them. This is a natural part of my personality anyway, so it organically crosses over into the way I lead circles and support the women outside of circle.
The circle experience that we all co-create together is magic in itself, and I’ve come to see that the way I make an effort to check in and authentically nurture personal connections outside of circle, adds value to the women’s whole experience of circle. It’s not just about attending an event.
I feel I provide a high level of personal care and support for my circle members, which plays a big role in what sets me apart, and part of the reason why many women trust me and keep coming back.
So there you go…. Three big life lessons that my circle facilitator journey has taught me or reaffirmed for me.
Does this resonate with you? Can you relate? I’d love to know your thoughts and experiences with all this! Share below or feel free to get in touch at firstname.lastname@example.org
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